ANOREXIA & BULIMIA
I struggled with the first one the most because I barely ate enough every day to even make myself throw up consistently. My struggle was the worst in high school when I dropped down to only weighing in the 90’s and would only eat half a bag of pretzels with a bottle of water a day for months straight. I didn’t have my period for a full year and I STILL never felt good enough as more and more pounds were came off. I was literally a walking BIC pen and the “skinny girl” stigma began. This may be hard for some of you to read but I strive to represent myself in the realest way possible because there is so much BULLSHIT on social media. Everyone struggles with something and this was one of my greatest struggles a long time ago, the struggle to eat because every tine I did - I felt I wouldn’t be attractive enough for anyone. No matter what, eating disorders are still real AF and still plague women regardless of how much we deny these issues still exist, especially in our young women today. How much you weigh or how fit you are has NOTHING to do with your IDENTITY or CHARACTER as a person. No matter what size you are and no matter how many unnecessary derogatory comments you get about what you look like, YOU ARE IMPORTANT and YOU ARE ALWAYS ENOUGH. I know your struggle is real and I know your pain 150%. Thinking about where my mindset was those days brings tears to my eyes still. Whether you struggled with an eating disorder in the past or you just struggle to eat now, just know you’re not alone and there are many women who have been in your shoes but I can’t stress enough the importance of eating. In order to get the shape or figure you want, you have to eat and exercise. That’s just how it works and in the beginning it’s frustrating because you’re not losing pounds on the scale... you lose inches though and then as you are patient with time, you begin to see your hard work. The key is patience with this process but you have to eat in order to get to be where you want to be. Eat more, not less boo. 💯
I don’t usually share this part of my life, as it’s always been a sensitive topic. I was always bullied growing up, called names like “pig” and people even pointing out how much “fat” I had on me. This was a slow progress that took two years , and what most forget is also working on ourselves emotionally and the scars that we carry. Being bullied does hurt and the words can carry weight for years.
Keep going and if you want to give up, don’t! Every little bit counts and don’t be disappointed if it doesn’t come off as fast as you would like. Slow but steady always wins the race. Be good to yourself . You got this! #weightlossjourney#weightlosstransformation#youareenough#youarebeautiful
When the struggle is real, where do your thoughts go? What happens to your mindset?
We are always in transition. FACT. .
Like most of us, I am no stranger to struggle.
I actually know it pretty well.
But the thing is - its always temporary. Right?
Once upon a time I raised a teenager with no support (no child support) and no support network, with no car, no money and still to this day wonder how the heck we ever got through it.
I often remind myself of this period in my life because it reminds me of my strength. It reminds me I’m a f**kin BADASS. .
The thing is, struggle will never be a stranger. In some way we will always face obstacles and challenges. We will always be reaching, stretching, bending and facing new heights we haven’t tackled before. If you aren’t then I would say you aren’t aiming high enough and you are better than that my friend. .
Its really easy to get lost in the hard stuff and allow our thoughts to go to lower places. The limiting beliefs come up and tap us on the shoulder and our mindset can begin to suffer the consequences. It’s SO DAMN damaging to our growth and evolution when we let that stuff take hold.
Just like a mountain, when you’re sad and fatigued its a whole lot harder to climb than when your in a good mood and full of energy. .
So then, how do we keep this in check when you feel like the world is swallowing you whole? When you’re stressed and in the depths of the unknown?
TOOLS. AWARENESS. SELF REGULATION. EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE. .
Some of my go to’s:
- Reading a good book
- Listening to an inspiring podcast
- Turning on loud music and dancing it out
- Stopping to take deep nourishing breaths
- Talking it all out with a trusted friend/ family member
- Card pulls
- Taking positive action towards a goal
- Getting out in nature
- Movement/ exercise .
Do you have tools you turn to?
How do you nourish yourself and keep your state in check?
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Goeiemorgen instamatties. Ben een tijdje van de kaart geweest. Onderweg naar mezelf of hoe je het ook wilt noemen. Klaar voor een nieuw hoofdstuk, een nieuw vraagstuk. Want ik vraag me af: waar kom jij nou echt 's ochtends je bed voor uit? Als het antwoord koffie is, is dat ok. Als je niet uit bed komt en je nog even omdraait is dat ook ok (mits je geen kat hebt). Elke dag is een nieuwe dag om voor jezelf te kiezen. Je hoeft niet elke dag te stralen. Hebben we niet allemaal van die dagen dat we verbale dan wel nonverbale meppen willen uitdelen? Dat je je tranen moet bedwingen omdat de wereld zo'n ontiegelijke puinhoop is momenteel? Dat je iets wilt doen, maar niet goed weet wat? Ik zal je wat vertellen: het is genoeg. Jij bent genoeg. Zelfs op je baaldagen. Zelfs op de dagen die zo somber lijken dat er geen einde aan komt, geen spatje licht. Want weetje: die innerlijke storm gaat ook weer liggen. In de storm klinken woorden die je vertellen dat het ok is om voor jezelf te kiezen. Als de storm je hoofd uiteindelijk leegblaast, wees dan dankbaar. Dankbaar voor de storm zelf en hoe jij elke dag een nieuwe kans krijgt om te zijn wie je bent. Om toe te mogen groeien naar wie je echt bent. Voorbij trauma's of gedane zaken. Wat is er nu écht belangrijk? Jouw welzijn en dat van de mensen waar je om geeft. #selfcare#zelfwaardering#zelfliefde#selflove#apreciation#youareenough
34 minutes ago
When you start not taking things personally that’s when you’re really starting to free yourself.
People’s reactions are only a reflection of themselves of their unhealed traumas from their past not yours.
We all have our own unhealed traumas to deal with and to heal. And so we shouldn’t waist any of our energy on taking everyone’s behaviors towards us personally.
Ask yourself each time when you’re about to react or be affected by it, if this is making you feel free or not.
Instead put your attention on your self reflection and try to understand why it matters to you. So you can actually grow pass by.
You don’t need to prove anything to anyone and definitely not need anyone’s approval.
You’re enough and free.
Much Love, Ayşegül 🌻
For World Menopause Day today, let’s acknowledge & celebrate these amazing bodies which have carried us through the first half of our lives. Through the wisdom & experience we have gained, maybe as we travel through our menopause, we can begin to recognise who we are, see our power & strength, let go of ‘perfectionism’ & begin to awaken a new spiritual you. The menopause is a natural, healthy step in a woman’s journey, and although the symptoms may not always feel healthy, it is a natural process & one that too will pass in time. Seek the help & advice you need to cope but also remember to truly listen to your body...it is constantly sending you messages...listen, become aware, give yourself permission to look after you, pace yourself & look for the ‘real you’ in the journey ❤️❤️. #worldmenopauseday#menopause#womenempoweringwomen#wisdom#supportwomen#loveyourself#youareenough
44 minutes ago
We can tend to forget this, or never know it or just not believe it, but this simple truth can CHANGE EVERYTHING!
Never doubt that you were made for a purpose and you are unique. Not better, not worse, not inferior, not superior, but unique. 💗
Don’t get swept up in everyone else’s highlight reels on social media....live YOUR best life and know that there truly could never be a more beautiful YOU! 💕
Go into this weekend knowing that you are enough - you are exactly who you are supposed to be. Now honor that and be the best version of you that you can - not a second rate version of someone else you think has it all together.....spoiler alert: no one actually has it all together!
Learn to love the person you were made to be and give her a break sometimes. YOU are an absolute miracle and you are exactly who this world needs you to be 🌎💕