I learned from time in solitary that silence can be your best friend. At some of my lowest points just taking time to return to presence was my saving grace. As Dr. Rick Hanson says in his book Resilient, we all need time to ensure we avoid “inner homelessness”. Love that term.
A simple strategy - Find a moment each day to take THREE conscious breaths. Sit comfortably in silence, and take a deep breath in all the way, paying attention only to the breath, then out doing the same. Do this 3 times focusing only on the breath.
Who would have thought just breathing could be so calm and centering?
Do you remember to BR E A T HE ?! .
This month has really taught me to pause.
I’ve had to get centred around my business, my relationships, my health goals, my self love, etc.
Trusting the process and breathing helped me take a shitty situation and see it as a huge opportunity.
Being in tune with my body and how it feels under stress reminded me to breathe.
It took having a routine or a plan and doing it.
It took a lot of G RA T I UD E ✨
What’s your mindfulness routine?
Gratitude lists and affirmations have become my favourite 💕✨and of course a little nature 🍂 #ilovetrees
On a day to day basis there is really very little we have to do to keep our bodies running. We have to eat, drink, move, and sleep but all the ‘heavy lifting’ of keeping us alive is done by the life force that runs through each and every one of us. We don’t have to beat our own hearts, digest our own food, make hormones or breathe our own lungs. When we cut ourselves, or our body comes into contact with a bacteria or virus, our amazing immune system mounts a response and heals us. This self-correcting mechanism to bring the body back into balance is in-built – there is nothing we need to do. ⠀
Our psychological system also has this in-built, self-correcting mechanism. However we haven’t always been shown that this is so. We are taught to believe that when our mind is out of whack (that’s a technical term!), we have to do something to right it…..think positively, meditate, go for a walk, do yoga….And worse we are led to believe that there is something wrong with us if our mind isn’t as it ‘should’ be. ⠀
I feel sure that the infinitely intelligent energy that powers the universe, that provides a self-healing mechanism for the body, also provides one for our minds. ⠀
We all experience days when our mind is busy, or we are in a low mood. That’s a normal part of being human. What if we don’t take this so personally, so seriously, and just rest in the knowing that are mind will correct itself in time? ⠀
If we take time to notice, maybe we will see that without us having to do anything, eventually our mind will settle back down, and we will feel peaceful or ‘ourselves’ again. If we can get out of the way by not taking our current state of mind so seriously, healing of our minds will happen, just as it happens for the body. It may not be within a time frame our ego is happy with, but we always return to clarity in the end. ⠀
Everyone is scared.
We are all afraid at what "might" happen.
What if it doesn't work? .
What if I can’t or don’t sell something?
What if I can't be successful? .
What you need to understand is the fact that you are doing it ANYWAYS is true success.
Doing it in spite of these feelings😥😭😡🥺😞
A year ago, I wouldn’t have understood that things were happening for me.
I wouldn’t have been open enough to accept and choose peace instead of fighting.
I’ve grown emotionally 💕 #bpdrecovery .
Doing things in spite of your feelings demonstrates your commitment and your strength. #resilient .
We let our feelings make too many of our decisions for us.
We need to win this battle with our feelings! .
Normally when you ask for advice people just give you "their feeling" or "their opinion" but people can't go further than their nose! 🤷🏽♀️
So when your close friend tells you "you won’t be good at that" or "no one makes money with those things!" Remember that they are basing this advice upon what THEY DO. .
Stop doing things with your mind.
Start doing things with your heart🖤✨
Stop quitting because you're mad you didn't get results from work that you didn't do.
Stop telling yourself you can't do this.
Stop asking what everyone else thinks & feels...stop seeking other people's approval. .
It's so interesting what happens when you just don't care and you don’t give up.👊🏾💎💎
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Caring for myself isn’t self indulgence but it is an act of self preservation. It’s about taking charge of my mental and physical health when the weight of my worries and responsibilities become too heavy at the moment to handle. I’ve had to adapt the phrase I came across awhile ago— “I will honor and respect myself by regularly taking care of my needs”. I had to understand I needed to be intentional about taking care of myself and truly putting my best foot forward for my wife, family, and myself. I had to step out of this draining comfort zone and make purposeful choices to create a space where I am balanced in mind, body, and soul as much as possible.
Announcing Evolve – my 3 month 1:1 coaching programme.
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You are not alone 👁Aka: no matter who you are trying to understand: you must always consider the system. Everything and everyone must be considered within their context. People don’t just become depressed, anxious or dysfunctional for no reason. All human dysfunctions can and should be understood within their specific context. Basically, there is ALWAYS a reason for why people are unwell or dysfunctioning. Human behavior simply reflects its surroundings. .
People often deny and negate their childhood environments as being the culprits for their present suffering. However, all behavior is adaptive. So any behavior is a direct result of its evolving environment. We often assume that we know what people feel or what they have gone through in their past. We think that just because we see their social media or just because we know their family that we know them. The truth is: we don’t.
For all of you that feel misunderstood or unseen in the world: I see you. For all of you that are suffering and that don’t feel supported, understood or believed: I believe you. No one can tell you how you feel. And there is nothing wrong with you. Emotional and behavioral dysfunction and suffering is a direct result of your childhood environment. So cut yourself some slack: you didn’t choose what you went through: you survived it. You are a survivor. .
If no one sees you, that’s okay: start seeing yourself. If no one understands you: start understanding yourself. If you don’t feel loved: start loving yourself. Whatever you have lacked, you can build for yourself. Whatever you have been through, you can accept. Whatever pain you feel: you CAN heal. You can get better and if you believe enough in yourself: you WILL. Much love to you all: I see you 👁
It’s ok to be scared.
Feeling fear can’t hurt you.
It quickens my heart, tightens my shoulders and quads, and feels like a squeezing in my chest.
But that’s all it is to experience fear, a sensation in your body created by a release of chemicals in your brain, ignited by the thoughts you think.
Your brain is one powerful mama jama.
So feel the fear.
Where is it in your body?
What does it actually feel like?
Is it moving fast or slow?
Is it sharp or dull?
Once you unmask it... it’s not near as scary.
Just like miss Em today... feel the fear and do the scary thing anyway.