Peace and Blessings
So I've been kinda laying low lately trying to stay out the way of the current #MercuryRetrograde
But recently, I've decided to start dating again...and we all know that with busy schedules, kids, self-care and maintaining a balanced social life, it's hard to find time to date. So the best option for me has been online dating #AtTheBeginningOfTheDay you have some standards and realistic expectations before braving the wide world of online dating. I'm gonna post a video later about some additional tips I have for those considering online dating...but in the meantime here are some very good things to consider
| Lessons Learned from Climbing |
These are just a few life lessons and/or reminders climbing has provided for me - on & off the rock walls. The experience is so exhilarating; physically, mentally & emotionally. As my appreciation for the sport grows, I’m taking things a long the way and tying them into larger life perspectives:
1. Instant gratification, is NOT a thing. It takes time to be good. It takes time to get strong. It takes patience to get where you want to be. In the wise words of a Ralph Waldo Emerson “patience and fortitude conquer all things”
2. Overcoming adversity - there are far more times that I have to walk away from the projects/problems than actually “sending” it. There have been so many instances that I am so intimidated by the challenges each route presents. But I’ve come to realize that accepting these challenges amps me and encourages me to work harder with my goals. “Failing” is a vital part of the process and resilience is key. It keeps me on a constant check - realizing that it’s okay to step back, regroup, and most importantly — realizing that there is not a single way to solve a problem. The key is to understand the “inability to send” doesn’t represent failure — it is feedback that something needs to change.
3. Be gracious with yourself and have a dang good time!
Looks legit! The moment you realise you should’ve checked the gazebo was in mint condition before you drove it 400 miles to Scotland... and also that the questionable bag of “gazebo side panels” was really not a cover for the gazebo that was wrecked on your 18th birthday back in 2008. My local community is only to pleased to laugh at my misfortune and lots of very kind strangers offering to lend a replacement. Thank you so much lovely people! #firstworldproblems#oops#botched#gazebo#lifelessons#bigmistake#roflmao
Trees are the best example of philosophy of integrity. They allow even the dried leaves, stems, and flowers to bloom in greenery. They embrace themselves as they are. They aren't complicated like us who are trying to mask and unmask our performativity. Performance without integrity has no vision and no philosophy. I don't understand why do we often philosophize human minds. Are we intact with universe? Without interacting with nature, we can't understand the universe within and we cannot share our energies if we stay fragmented due to our egoism. Our panoptical gazes made our lives complicated. Let's get back to the ground.
#TBT w/ #MikeEpps. I learn a lot from every client I work with. In addition to bringing the funny, @eppsie always impressed me w/ his huge heart for kids. I was with him when he was honored with the key to the city for #Greensboro.
I also visited schools, hospitals, #BoysAndGirlsClubs and other places with him. In those moments, it was just him & the kids. He connected with them, listened to them & always made sure they knew #DayDay was one of them. The power of that type of connection was life changing, even for me as an adult.
When #MikeBrown was murdered in #Ferguson by cops, we went there too. And by ‘went there’, I mean, to the streets of #Ferguson where the murder actually took place. The verdict hadn’t come out yet as we stood by the memorial marking the spot of this horrible tragedy. The city was in crisis. Epps wanted to talk to the locals & let them know he felt their pain. We parked, he got out & we stayed out there in the street for hours while ppl shared their stories, fears, anger and gratitude with him for taking the time to listen. There were a bunch of young black men, teens, growing young boys...who could’ve very easily have been the next Mike Brown. Epps knew everything they weren’t saying, and everything they were. No cameras. No press. Just him & them. That changed me. In that moment, I knew I could no longer be silent on police brutality & started using my own voice to speak up.
So, like I said, I learn something new with each client. Most fans don’t even know this side of Mike Epps cuz he’s just a real one like that. He does it because it’s just who he is. It’s his calling to touch ppl like that I believe. I love that about him.
Ok and yes...he’s hella funny all day everyday but y’all already know! ❤️❤️ #LifeLessons#RIPMikeBrown#ThursdayThoughts#LifeOnTheRoad
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God's on your side
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Sometimes life is like the first picture: glimmer, happiness and loads of optimism. Sometimes life is like the second picture: it’s just you facing the dark where the promised light at the end of the tunnel noone bothered to turn on and everything seems pointless. Which picture describes your life right now ? And guess what: both are totally cool and both are part of the full and complete human experience. No judgement.
Proving stems from insecurity. Any time you have to prove yourself to someone, or someone feels they have to prove themselves to you, it is really an attempt to overcome an insecurity. If you knew beyond any doubt that you were the best in the world at a particular thing, you would not need to prove your skill to anyone. You would know from within that you were the best.
It is natural to want to be better. No one is perfect. Everyone is doing the best they can to get as good at life as they are able. When you are secure with who you are and your strengths (and weaknesses) you can live from a place of knowing. When you know your own value, it doesn't matter whether or not others are able to see what you see.
When I was a kid my nickname was witch because of my long dark hair, but I didn’t mind because I loved witches and witchy things, if we played games I was always happy to be the witch and not the princess, it was just so much more interesting to me. My witchy vibes carried on into my teenage years and then at around 14 things happened. I guess I thought I had to grow up and not be interested in those kind of things anymore. I became someone who got moulded by my circumstances, and although I see it now but couldn’t then I fell into a depression and lost my sense of self. I look back and see how in my desperation I was living for others, trying to be someone’s princess. Not fulfilling myself, well one day that’s going to come back you on and it definitely did. I wonder how things would be different if I had embraced myself then? I can only trust that I had lessons to learn and this how it’s supposed to be. #witchesofinstagram#witchesdoitbetter#goddess#liveyourlife#beyourself#embraceyourself#beyoufirst#beyourownperson#spirtual#spiritualawakening#journeytome#lifelessons
you and me, we met at an international conference at which we volunteered. Ten thousands of participants, hundreds of volunteers. We were in different shifts, but had a common friend through which we met. From the start, I felt such a familarity with you that I didn't even properly introduce myself. It felt as if I knew you already for a long time. But I didn't and I was extremly shy around you, because that is how I act when I truly like someone.
I always felt inferior and crazy next to people outside the church and couldn't believe they could like me... if only they knew!!!
at the same time it was a taboo for me to like someone outside my church, especially because I was in an arranged marriage.
To be fully honest, I met another man at this conference as well that invoked a similar curiosity and shyness in me. Why I chose you over him is another story.
This shocked me so much. I had just come back from my first (!!) vacation with my arranged-marriage-guy. After 8 years and me being a travel addict I had finally convinced him to travel with me and it was one of the nicest times we ever shared together. So that I all of a sudden fell for two other guys at the "peak" of our relationship confused me.
I couldn't deny it, I couldn't ignore it, I couldn't continue like this.
There was something
and finally, finally, finally, I realized I deserved more. and the arranged-marriage-guy did as well.
with whom I can have conversations that stimulate me emotionally and intellectually.
who is interested in my everyday life.
who sees me for who I am.
with whom I can feel free to be myself and for whom I don't have to adapt completely.
to whom I feel physically attracted.
who doesn't criticise him all the time for who he is.
who let's him live in the country he wants to live in, be with the people he wants to be with and follow a professional path that he wants to follow.
who isn't unhappy all the time because she feels trapped.
who is as satisfied with the status quo as him.
who doesn't feel bored around him and trying to avoid meeting up.
My mom taught me this when I was struggling with the idea to quit my job. It helped me structure my thoughts and feelings, because decisions like these can be a little overwhelming. It might seem like there’s so much that you’ve got to take into account when you’re evaluating a (new or current) job. According to her, it’s actually quite simple. There are only 3 elements that you need to be aware of and they’re relevant for every job on earth. They may differ in appearance and outcome based on your individual values but their core principles are the same for everyone. You just have to figure out what these elements should look like to you in the ideal situation. You’ll probably already have an idea but perhaps you’re not fully aware of it yet. A few people (and hopefully more as awareness increases) will find all elements to their liking in a so-called dream job (3/3). A bunch of us will be happy to find 2 of them in a great job (2/3). But if that’s not the case and you have to be really honest with yourself here, if there’s less elements that you like, then it really is time to leave (<1/3). 💼