Good morning world...I woke up and really wanted to go for a long walk, so off me and mummy went!
35 minutes, 4364 steps and 3.23km 🙌🏽 The longest walk I’ve done in one go since forever!
13 minutes ago
CO DE PEN DANT.
Zorgen. Verantwoordelijkheid overnemen. Wanneer iemand ergens mee zit direct denken dat je iets moet. Dat jij moet oplossen en helpen.
Been there, done that. Het is een bindmiddel, onbewust. Het is dat we ontwikkelen. We ruiken op een gegeven moment wat iemand graag zou willen of van ons verwacht.
Noem het het redderscomplex. Je leert 'werken' voor liefde. Dat is wat je kent. Dat moest je vroeger al. Zorgen van ouders wegnemen. Pijn voelen en hen willen ontlasten. Hun problemen gaan dragen. Vaak krijgen we dan het gevoel van liefde. Het schept een sterke band.
Je nodig voelen. Je belangrijk voelen.
Op een gegeven moment, later in je volwassenen leven. Heb je het nodig je nodig te voelen. Blijf je dit herhalen. Omdat JIJ het nodig hebt, en lang niet altijd die ander.
Wat het creëert is ongelijkheid. Afhankelijkheid. Ongezond dus. De redder voelt zich nodig en belangrijk, de ander zwak en machteloos.
Voor twee personen kut. De kleine kan nl niet zijn of haar eigen 'problemen', oplossen zo, en de grote moet leren dat patroon, copingsmechanisme los te laten.
Te zien, twee kanten, waar het vandaan komt.
Ouders die hun shit niet konden dragen, geven dit door en belasten onbewust hun kinderen. Maar. Die, en ook ouders, kunnen die vreselijke circel breken. Relaties, verstandhoudingen gezond en VRIJ maken.
Dan krijg je: Ik heb je nodig omdat ik van je hou, en niet ik hou van je omdat ik je nodig heb.
Codependentie. Traumabonding. Work it. Het is voor niemand fijn, en iedereen wil gelukkig, en gelijkwaardig samen zijn. Breek die patronen.
Change ‘gon come... whether we like it or not. Whether we are ready or not. The point is to BECOME ready when you start seeing this sequence. Light activation code #555 signifies MAJOR change is up ahead. Trust me when I tell you... because I’ve seen this before every single major change in my life in the last 5 years. The first time I noticed it in a significant way, I drove past a little blue house in Connecticut with a bright red door, and on that door were the numbers 555.
If you’re seeing this sequence of numbers the universe is absolutely trying to forewarn you and get you to prepare or to at least be alert. This not a bad “omen” it’s literally a signal pointing toward your higher self, beckoning you to brace for impact whether it be good or bad. For example: I just accepted a job offer that changes my life in a really significant way. Did I see 555 prior? I did... in dreams and in my waking life.
The way our world works seems so complicated at times; that is until we slow down and pay close attention to the PATTERNS and cycles. It becomes simplified. Like cheat codes in 2K. At some point we ALL have to slow down, stop, and take a look around us and recognize when we’re being called up to a higher state of awareness and consciousness. I used to refer to these as angel numbers, but after years of studying this phenomenon and studying my own life, I’ve come to understand these are actual codes that activate certain actions or occurrences in the lives of those who have awakened. Are you still sleeping?
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I tried my hands on this @organixmantra Anti aging Macadamia Radiance Elixir.
It is full of essential oils, which nourishes and replenishes the skin.
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Learning to let go of control.
For years I thought I had escaped being adversely affected by my childhood environment. I really thought that this had somehow affected others and not me, that I was in control.
One of the first things that I came to recognise as an effect was how in ‘control’ I was.
When we are children, we are vulnerable, small and have little impact on the environment around us. We cannot drive change, we cannot make things how we want them to be and we sure as hell cannot encourage other people’s behaviours to be what we want.
When we are older, however, we can have an impact.
The deep need to control as an adult comes from being so out of control as a child, and things that were not in our control had been able to hurt us. Our subconscious mind, as a defence mechanism, sees so many things as a danger that it goes into hyperactive overdrive to protect, that at times it can go a little too far! The subconscious mind does tend to foresee outcomes and be a bit melodramatic about it, but it comes from a good place. As does our need to control.
My control was TOO MUCH! I really, really wanted everyone around me to not be affected by the stuff that had hurt them and that meant doing this, that and the other to show and prove that.
Truth is, whatever I was trying to control didn’t show or prove shit! It didn’t show a non-effect, but quite the opposite! The very thing I was fighting for was fighting right back against me.
When I look back my need for control was cray, cray, and it was towards me, my family, friends and boyfriends.
We cannot change anyone or make anyone do anything that they don’t want to do, no matter how much we try and drive this, no amount of money, encouragement, love, lectures or anything is going to decide for them. And despite the deep ache and yearn to control this, it is the very thing that we have absolutely NO control over, which in turn only causes more pain than the pain we were trying to protect ourselves from in the first place!
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