It can be exhausting at times being black in America, lights flashing in your rear view you start wondering what did I do? Ok, turn the music and engine off, this is just a routine stop the officer is just doing his job.
Where's my license registration, and insurance card? I hope I don’t fit any descriptions, keep my hands in plane view. You already know the drill.
I received a call from a number I didn’t recognize, which I typically don’t pick up. Today I decided to answer, on the other end of the phone was a detective. Now I’m not involved in any criminal activity, I don’t have any warrants, I haven’t witnessed any crimes.
So what do you want to talk about? My corny opening line which I deliver with a British accent. It is physically emotionally and mentally draining when you constantly have to be on guard as a black man in America.
How will my actions be perceived? I do it so much that I’m unconscious of my behavior it has become a habit, a part of my nature and it shouldn’t be, but I don’t want there to be any misunderstandings.
The detective is asking me to come in to talk, he says: “the whole thing could be a misunderstanding.” I place two phone calls so someone knows my whereabouts and go to the station because, I haven’t done anything thing wrong.
This was around 6:00pm and I’m still feeling the negative energy from that interaction after my 3mile run. I'm tired of always having to consider things from someone else's point, yes I'm emphatic, but we are constantly being asked to consider how our actions may be viewed. I wonder what it would feel like to be free from the weight pressure of being black in America.
This is so hard. So so hard. And the more I’ve been working on myself and my mental health lately, the more I’ve become introverted. And because I talk very little, I’m talked to very little, which I see as being ignored. I’ll find the balance eventually, but for now, it’s so hard. #itsnotyouitsme#mentalhealth#anxiety#depression#selfcare
One helpful thing tip when tackling depression... YOU ARE NOT DEPRESSION. There’s power in language, and what you speak into existence gives energy to it. When we feel down, we often find ourselves saying things along the lines of “I’m depressed”. When we say this, we tell others and ourselves that we are taking depression on as an identity. It’s a slippery slope that can become the fabric of our identity if we keep it up. The 5% of the conscious mind dictates the other 95% of the unconscious what to internalize through repetition. It’s much more effecting when battling depression to say “ I’m experiencing some depression”, “I feel depressive symptoms”, or “I feel depressed”. It’s a more accurate statement, and is less likely to influence accrual of undesirable character traits. We all get some depression at times; it’s the common cold of the mind. When it does come, it’s best not to let it become who we actually are. You are you. You are not depression.
I feel very strongly about this. It makes me frustrated and sad. So many amazing and beautiful people are anxious and depressed because of many thing that are PREVENTABLE from negative peer pressure, FAKE NEWS fear mongering, social media highlight reels of ones life, and those who are self centered that put others down. I’d like to change that and it starts with the 300 of you that’ll see this so here’s some pointers that WE can ALL work on...
1. Love One Another.
2. Treat others as if they’re more valuable than you.
3. Have Fun!
4. Lift others up and never tear down because nobody wins that.
5. Have GREAT people in your life who are a tremendously good influence on you, allow you to be yourself, and be happy! Oh and if they aren’t those things... bye bye!!👋👋
Let’s Make Earth Loving Again and find a way to love what you do so you can say “Yay Me” more often!!
Plant Based 🌱 Challenge .
So today marks Day #1 of my one month plant based Challenge.
Why the hell are you doing that? I hear you ask... Well I wanted to for a few reasons.
#1 - Joint pain. With my ongoing ankle issue and re injuring it last week I really wanted to focus on joint care. One thing that eating meat can cause is inflammation of the joints.
#2 Cost - Our normal shopping bill for what me and @charl_charli eat durning the week comes in at over $200. That includes $35 on steak and $30 on chicken.
Yesterday we spent $90 on plant based food! Read that’s again!
#3 - I want to learn about different sustainable diets so I can better serve my clients.
#4 - I love a good challenge!
How can I help you challenge yourself? Are you ready for a new fitness program or ready to mix up your meals?
If you want to join me let’s chat.
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Doodle Psychology is a creative workshop where you will use the power of doodling to rediscover your character strengths! 😄
In each workshop, participants will be given simple doodling exercises to help them explore areas of life they would like to improve upon.
You don't need to be a great artist to enjoy these workshops - they are designed to be a fun way for adults to explore their inner strengths and resources (18+).
The intention of these workshops is to help you gain objectivity and clarity of yourself in a fun, intimate setting while making new friends and rediscovering your love of doodling!
To book a ticket either send me a message, scan the QR code on the poster, or copy-paste this link:
Hope to see you there! - Adrian👍🍀