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2 days ago
On a day to day basis there is really very little we have to do to keep our bodies running. We have to eat, drink, move, and sleep but all the ‘heavy lifting’ of keeping us alive is done by the life force that runs through each and every one of us. We don’t have to beat our own hearts, digest our own food, make hormones or breathe our own lungs. When we cut ourselves, or our body comes into contact with a bacteria or virus, our amazing immune system mounts a response and heals us. This self-correcting mechanism to bring the body back into balance is in-built – there is nothing we need to do. ⠀
Our psychological system also has this in-built, self-correcting mechanism. However we haven’t always been shown that this is so. We are taught to believe that when our mind is out of whack (that’s a technical term!), we have to do something to right it…..think positively, meditate, go for a walk, do yoga….And worse we are led to believe that there is something wrong with us if our mind isn’t as it ‘should’ be. ⠀
I feel sure that the infinitely intelligent energy that powers the universe, that provides a self-healing mechanism for the body, also provides one for our minds. ⠀
We all experience days when our mind is busy, or we are in a low mood. That’s a normal part of being human. What if we don’t take this so personally, so seriously, and just rest in the knowing that are mind will correct itself in time? ⠀
If we take time to notice, maybe we will see that without us having to do anything, eventually our mind will settle back down, and we will feel peaceful or ‘ourselves’ again. If we can get out of the way by not taking our current state of mind so seriously, healing of our minds will happen, just as it happens for the body. It may not be within a time frame our ego is happy with, but we always return to clarity in the end. ⠀
2 days ago
How can you suddenly fancy women after all these years?
Why are you lying awake at night wondering if this is the life you really want after all?
Perhaps you got married and had kids and have been happy until now or maybe you’ve never settled down because something just felt missing.
Either way, right now you’re feeling unfulfilled, uncertain and stuck in your life.
I want you to know if this is you, it’s not your fault. We don’t live our whole life wanting the same things or finding happiness in the same ways. Let’s face it what we found ‘fun’ in our twenties is often the last thing we’d want to do for fun in our forties!
Our sexuality can change over time too. We may know deep down that we’ve always been attracted to women or it may be a new revelation.
Either way you’re realising you can’t push it away or try to bury it anymore, no matter how scary or unnerving it feels.
I believe to be truly happy (and achieve our highest potential) we need to connect with what lights us up, excites and inspires us.
What would you think if I told you that buried away along with your repressed sexuality is your most creative, beautiful, gifted and passionate self?
And your full potential…
If you’re feeling unsure about who you really are right now, I can help. I’ll provide a safe space to explore this stuff, no expectations, no must dos or judgement. If you’re ready to get clear on what you truly want and make a positive plan for the way forward then I’d love to hear from you.
p.s. Send me a message with any questions or to book a free discovery call.
Limited spaces available. Contact me today to learn more about what we’ll be doing at this retreat, as well as your pricing options.
A perfect ending to 2019, you’ll feel refreshed and re-energised after this retreat...a perfect way to start 2020!
6 days ago
WHY YOU’RE QUESTIONING YOUR SEXUALITY LATER IN LIFE REASON NO.3 – We all want to fit in.
Back then I didn’t want to ask myself whether I might be gay.
The first crush I had was on a girl at the riding stables when I was 12 but it wasn’t until I was in my late-twenties that I fell properly in love with a woman.
As soon as I realised how I felt about her I pushed it away.
My feelings felt wrong and shocking.
I couldn’t comprehend it.
I buried it.
Too big to cope with.
So I locked it away, my shameful secret.
I was deep in denial.
I wanted be like everyone else.
I wanted to be straight.
As human beings we have this burning desire to fit in and belong to something larger than us.
We assess what others are doing and we do the same, regardless of whether it feels congruent with who we are.
We filter and modify ourselves in order to feel accepted - we listen to the should dos in our head telling us what we should be reading, watching, wearing and thinking.
And who we should love.
It took me a while to realise that fitting in was costing me my happiness and my wellbeing.
What’s it costing you?
REASON NO.3 – We all want to fit in.
P.s. If this is resonating or you're struggling with any of this I can help. Message me or a book a call link in bio.
P.p.s. get my free guide to coming out - link in bio.🌈
6 days ago
The most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. Work on YOU. Explore what makes you happy, what feels good for you, what do you want in life? Learn to love yourself. Personal development is a great way to work on your relationship with yourself. It’s all starts with YOU. We can chase happiness from external sources such as a new car, a relationship, a fulfilling job or even a piece of chocolate. But these external sources may not last.. bringing many highs and lows into our lives. Once we learn to seek that happiness from within ourselves.. that’s when everything changes! Look internal, ask yourself what needs to happen inside of you to feel fulfilled, content and happy? #getcurious#bemoreyou#lesbianwellness#krystle#lesbianmind&bodywellness #lesbian#gaygirls#transformation#lesbianlove#lesbiancoaching#bisexual🌈 #queergirls#brightonlifecoach
7 days ago
WHY YOU’RE QUESTIONING YOUR SEXUALITY LATER IN LIFE REASON NO.2 – Social norms
In a million tiny ways, every day, we are taught that only relationships with the opposite sex are valid and ‘right’. From an early age we're socially conditioned to believe that romantic relationships are only acceptable between a man and a woman.
Women’s magazines, popular tv shows, news and media are all geared towards stories and lifestyles where we fall in love with a man, get married have children and spend the rest of our lives happily ever after. This is possibly why so many lesbians have dated or married men. And why we freak out at the thought of fancying and actually wanting to be with another woman!
It challenges everything we’ve been told about what is right and normal. And it challenges how we have lived our life up until this point. It makes it really difficult to separate true desire from what has been ‘taught’. If you’re feeling anxious or confused about your feelings please know that there are a million other women out there in the same boat as you! And that this is problem with society, not us!
So that’s REASON NO.2 – Social norms
p.s. I can help you to live with more confidence, self-love and fulfillment. Please DM to arrange a free discovery call or have a look in bio for free resources.🌈
WHY YOU’RE QUESTIONING YOUR SEXUALITY LATER IN LIFE - NO.1. We're not 100% anything.
In this 3 post series I'm giving you the top 3 reasons women find themselves questioning their sexuality later in life. Read on if you’re feeling confused or uncertain about your sexuality.
Because it can be a scary and lonely place to be, right. You might be wondering about the implications not only for you personally but for your whole (straight) life.
Nobody fully understands yet what determines a person’s sexuality. Some studies suggest it is genetic i.e. we’re born gay or straight. So, we assume that if a woman admits to same-sex attraction later in her life, it’s because she's repressed it (for me this was undoubtedly the case.) However, it’s also possible and very common, that our sexuality and romantic attraction changes throughout our lifetime, sometimes more than once. Sexuality isn’t rigid and fixed.
Imagine a scale where you have gay and straight at either end. There are many shades of grey in-between. People who aren’t sure, who've had same-sex relationships in the past but now identify as straight, who are bisexual but strongly prefer one gender over another - and many other different attractions. All of which are ok and normal!
So that’s REASON NO.1 – We're not 100% anything.
P.s If you want more reassurance and support on questioning your sexual orientation download my free Coming Out Curve PDF link in bio (no sign -up needed.) 🌈💗
Are you too afraid to tell your boss you’re a lesbian?
You’re not alone!
More than a third of LGBTQ+ employees (35%) are still afraid to be themselves at work. @stonewalluk
I’ve had great bosses. I’d talk to them about aging parents, illness, moving home, pet deaths, periods and menopause. But it was always harder to tell them about my sexual orientation. I felt like I needed to show them I was competent and trustworthy first. I was afraid they would hold it against me in some way or being gay would define me rather than the fact I could do a good job. I didn't want to be labelled ‘the gay one’ or ‘the lesbian in HR’. Over the years I became used to putting on my work mask. Filtering and pretending. Not being fully myself became the norm. Back then I didn’t believe it effected my ability to do a good job. Now I see that the stress and anxiety I felt about people finding out my ‘secret’ and hiding something so fundamental about myself took its toll.
My ex-colleagues might be surprised that I didn’t feel able to come fully out of the closet at work for those 20 years, (most of you were absolutely wonderful by the way) but one or two homophobic comments or discriminatory behaviour can have a big impact in a culture of gender stereotypes when you’re worried about how you might be perceived.
Coming Out is uniquely personal. There are no rules or should do’s! You choose how, when and to whom. And if it doesn't feel right you don't have to come out at all.
If you have an LGBTQ staff network group at work they can be a good source of support and information. If that feels too daunting right now then have a look at my resource link in my bio. A host of brilliant resources which you can look at entirely at your own pace in your own time.
I offer private coaching to LGBTQ women struggling to live in the full truth of who they are. Message me to arrange for a private and confidential chat if you feel I can help. 🌈💙
If you work with women/parents in the birth field – Doula, midwife, breastfeeding consultant, yoga teacher, hypnobirthing specialist, or in any way as a birth worker, this workshop is not to be missed. ⠀
In this workshop you will learn powerful and effective energy tools to help you and your clients remove fear and pain from the energy body. The energy body is the interface between mind/emotion and the physical body. The energy body also connects us to the highest soul energy beyond mind/emotion and the physical self. These tools can be used in many situations with wonderful results. ⠀
Here is what some birth and postnatal clients have said:⠀
" I'm sure your energy healing started my labour after I was so worried about induction " ⠀
" The energy sweep you gave me left me so peaceful after just ten minutes "⠀
" Our baby has fed easily since you visited and worked your magic "⠀
" Thank you for all the support energetically during the tongue tie division "⠀
WHAT YOU WILL TAKE AWAY FROM THE WORKSHOP TO BENEFIT YOUR CLIENTS:⠀
How to super-charge the relaxation and hypnobirthing scripts you already use.⠀
Learn tools that can be used in conjunction with closing the bones, postpartum, pregnancy massage and on new born babies (and beyond).⠀
Learn skills that can be used in pregnancy, during birth and postnatally to reduce the presence of fear and pain.⠀
The Workshop will only run with a minimum number of six participants. We both look forward to sharing these profound energy tools with you!⠀
Please tag any friends who work in the field of birth! Thank you. ⠀
If you would like more information or to book please DM me. @aimee_hamblyn and I will be on Facebook live again this Friday at 9.30am talking about the workshop. ⠀
3 weeks ago
Do you ever wonder what your life right now might be costing you?
If you’re suppressing your sexuality or feeling too afraid to explore it, there’s something you need to know, it’s more than just your sexuality you’re pushing away.
Because you can’t just split that gay bit out and say “I don’t like you, you’re wrong, not allowed.” It doesn’t work like that.
When you buried that part of yourself you also buried a whole heap of other fantastic things that make you the unique and wonderful human that you are.
When I really got to know myself and accepted I was gay, I discovered new levels of creativity and self-belief and confidence. And I experienced deeper connection and love for others - and for myself!
What would it be like to discover the hidden and repressed parts of who you are and to embrace and love all of yourself?
I can tell you what I know. It feels bloody empowering to have total clarity on who you are and what you desire for your life.
Are you ready to commit to clarity and to knowing who you REALLY are? To commit to yourself?
If you’re questioning your sexuality or struggling with any of this, I can help. Send me a message to arrange a free, no obligation call with me or have a look at my website where I have a load of free and valuable resources to support you on your journey.
And Download my new free Guide to Questioning and Coming Out - link in bio🌈💕
What would it be like to stop pretending to yourself that you’ve got everything you want?
What would it be like to start being honest with yourself?
To cut through the fear and the fog and get to the truth of who you are.
And by the way it’s natural to not know who you are and what you want. Our relationship with ourselves is often confusing and multi-layered, heavily influenced by a whole heap of stuff like beliefs, culture, media, society.
It’s also completely natural to feel doubt and worry about what you might find if you start exploring and being really honest with yourself about who you are and what you want.
Because let’s face it, looking at this stuff is scary. It takes courage. What will you find.
Will you discover that you are gay? Or bisexual? Or queer or still questioning?
And then what?
Do the consequences scare you?
Firstly, I want you to know that you are in complete control here. There are no rules or must-do’s about coming out. You choose what you do or don't do. Always.
Secondly clarity is really empowering.
It means you are no longer afraid to understand and accept who you are, right now, in your life.
I know you want to feel calmer, more confident and more joyful!
I can help you with that 😉
Have a look at my free questiong and coming out guide, see link in bio🌈💕
December is round the corner! Book your place today for an amazing two day retreat. Connect with your inner child, learn how to set boundaries, balance your energy and much more! Contact me today to learn more and check out my stories for more information!
It was 1995 when I had my first same-sex experience.
And even though it sent me into one of the most angst-filled post party head-spins of my life, I’m grateful for it. Grateful that I got so drunk the events leading up to it were a blur. Grateful that it happened and grateful that it was the start of me accepting a part of myself I had denied and buried for the first 30 years of my life.
I don’t think I really questioned whether or not I was gay. I think I knew, I just didn’t want to accept it. It terrified me. I felt sick, ashamed, guilty. What did I do now? I felt so confused, anxious and alone.
Back then in the quiet leafy Surrey suburb where I lived, I didn’t know any gay people. And 20 odd years ago there weren’t any LGBTQ role models or celebrities or advocates or anything that I knew about to help me work it out.
Gradually over the next year or so, I came out to my family and trusted friends in my life. It was never easy. I always felt the fear of rejection tightening my chest, swirling in my belly, tears pricking in my eyes. Fortunately for me, those I loved in my life accepted me. Probably more completely than I did myself at that time.
I wish those early days of my journey had been easier. I would have loved to have known that I was going to come out on the other side and feel confident and proud of who I am.
I want everyone who reads my posts and hears my story to know that it’s ok to be you. All of you without hiding or filtering yourself.
And no matter what your age, living your truth, loving and accepting all that you are, you deserve that.
If you or a loved one is struggling with any of this, I can help - send me a message or email me and Download my FREE coming out curve - link in bio 💕🌈 #gayfamilies#lgtqfamily#comingoutcoach#lgbtqquestioning#lesbianlifecoach#brightonlifecoach#onelove#loveislove#gaylifecoach#lgbtqlifecoach#lesbianlife#lgbtqallyship#queer#empoweredlgbtq#equalityforall#liveyourtruth
3 weeks ago
You’ve been having these thoughts about your sexuality. That you avoid thinking about because when you do, the immediate anxiety, the guilt and the shame, urgh it just feels too awful, too scary, too confusing.
I mean, it would be a NIGHTMARE…wouldn’t it.
And anyway, you chose this life. You can’t just wake up one day and decide to be gay. To do anything about these feelings would be selfish. Because you have no right to disrupt everything and everyone in your life.
And yet right now you feel like you are LIVING A LIE.
And it’s SUFFOCATING you.
It’s making you feel numb, isolated…and trapped in your own personal prison. You know you aren’t happy but you have no idea what to do about it.
I want to tell you it’s NOT YOUR FAULT that you’re here, feeling this way.
Because there are all sorts of reasons we end up living a straight life when maybe that's not really who we are. Our sexuality is not as simple as 100% straight or gay, our society is heteronormative and we all have a basic human need to fit in.
So please stop telling yourself all sorts of unkind things.
Please know that honouring YOUR TRUTH and living authentically is never a selfish act. Because only when we are true to ourselves can we begin to be truly, fully and completely be there for others.
Knowing and accepting who you are is empowering. Stopping filtering and pretending and being fully you is FREEDOM and creativity and confidence.
How do I know? Because I’ve been where you are now and I've found self-acceptance, self-love and pride in who I am as a gay woman. And I’ve helped many other women on the same journey.
Wherever you are on your questioning or coming out journey, I can help. Just send me a message, I'd love to hear from you.
I’ve created a FREE Guide to Coming Out. Get your copy in my bio.💕🌈
4 weeks ago
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I love the simplicity and ordinary-ness of this way of seeing how our thinking works. ⠀
We are led to believe that what we think has to be taken seriously, is TRUE and is to be believed…no matter the content. If I think it, it MUST be true!⠀
In and of themselves, thoughts have no power. It’s only when we ‘give’ them power by paying attention to them, focusing on them and believing them that we may come unstuck. ⠀
Thought energy is meant to flow through us, not get stuck within us. Even when we try to ‘think’ positively, whilst this can mean a happier experience, it still gives thought more power than we need to. If we can see beyond the positive and negative of thoughts, and see that we are the space, or consciousness, within which they arise, this is where the juice is at. It is only when we ‘buy’ into a specific thought or set of thoughts that they start to impact our lives; if we don’t they pass on through and have no power. ⠀
When we aren’t invested in our thinking so much, I find we get to experience that deeper part of ourselves in a more tangible way – the part of us that is made of the same the innate intelligence or energy that powers the whole universe. ⠀
Next time you find yourself believing or ruminating on an unhelpful, negative or painful thought, maybe ask yourself: ‘Am I innocently adding the hot water to this tea bag?’ See if you can see that the thought has no substance other than what you giving it. ⠀
If you would like to explore how this understanding could help you to understand how you work, and so unlock your potential, please do get in touch. Either ask me a question here or private message me. You can also book free, no-obligation call on my website: https://buff.ly/2lhxZIT. I am here to help you find your freedom! xx⠀
4 weeks ago
It's ok to want a traditional girl meets boy love story for your child. To dream of planning their wedding, waiting for the grandchildren to arrive and being a central part of their family life.
Because at the heart of your hopes and dreams for them is their happiness and fulfillment, right.
The reality is that if they are LGBTQ they can STILL have all the happiness and fulfillment you want for them. And there's no reason why you can't be just as important in their life.
They haven't changed. They are still the child you've always loved.
They've been really brave telling you something really personal and probably pretty scary. They don't know how you will react and might be scared of loosing your love and support.
Your love and support is the one thing they need most right now... Please see my resource hub link in my bio.
If I can help in any way send me a message to arrange a confidential 121 call.🌈💕 #gayfamilies#lgtqfamily#comingoutcoach#lgbtqquestioning#lesbianlifecoach#brightonlifecoach#onelove#loveislove#gaylifecoach#lgbtqlifecoach#lesbianlife#lgbtqallyship#queer#empoweredlgbtq#equalityforall#liveyourtruth