Hi! 👋 My name is Shelby. I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Registered Yoga Teacher.
My purpose behind starting this account and blog is simple: (1) I want to help others by using the skills I’ve learned throughout my years as a mental health professional, and (2) through sharing my story. It may not be particularly riveting to all, but I believe it can help someone.
Through sharing, we achieve connection. Through connection, we heal.
We’re in an exciting time where mental health is being talked about in the open more and more. I feel like its my time to add my chapter to the book.
My passion is helping others heal through mind + body connection. This can be achieved in a variety of ways, and I believe that physical activity such as yoga, walking, jogging… virtually ANYTHING providing movement… is one component of the equation.
See what I’ve started by clicking the link in my bio.
My absolute world! There’s a misconception that people with BPD can’t have ‘healthy' relationships & Iwould have believed that until I met my boyfriend. After years of horrendous relationships, 2 of which were extremely abusive & have caused me a lot of trauma that still affects me now (I’m working on healing my trauma in therapy) I started to believe that I would never find a bf & would be alone forever. I didn’t think I’d find someone who would treat me the way anyone should be treated with love & kindness. I believed I wasn’t loveable & a burden, which sent me into some dark places.We have been together 6 years now & he has stuck by my side through everything. When we first got together I was undiagnosed with BPD, he knew I struggled with anxiety & depression but we both knew there was something else going on. It was a very turbulent start, I’d say the first 2 years were extremely hard. I tried to push him away at all costs, even though I was so scared to lose him. My mood swings & behaviours were out of control & I know I was hard to be around, let alone be someone’s girlfriend. But he stuck by me! All them times I would scream at him that i didn’t want to be with him (which was a lie) he refused to leave, all them times I pushed him one step too far, he stayed. I was so used to being mistreated that I didn’t know how to let myself be treated properly! I don’t know what I’ve done to deserve someone so special! We have our ups & downs like any couple & yes it is harder because of my BPD but he’s the most patient person I’ve ever met. who wouldn’t even dare raise his voice to me, the only time I hear him shout is at the football 😂 when I’m having an episode & my BPD is being a bitch, he simply lets me have my moment knowing I don’t mean what I say or how I act.. I would never intentionally hurt him.. but sometimes my emotions get the better of me & the guilt that follows is horrendous. I’m working on trying to be a better girlfriend, we do look back & laugh at how ‘bonkers’ I’ve been over the years but honestly I can’t even bare to think what I would do without him. He saved me! There’s so much more I want to say but I’ve run out of Space on this caption♥️
From the time a girl reaches puberty until about the age of 50, she is twice as likely to have an anxiety disorder than a man. Anxiety disorders also occur earlier in women than in men. Via @triumphoveranxiety
In the process of putting together poems for a potential book, I wrote this piece and it has quickly become one of my favorites. Funny how the poems we don’t try to write are often the best and the most revealing✨
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Postpartum Anxiety- what’s the root cause? Is it ourselves getting into our own heads? Lately I have been wondering if it’s the nonstop advice you get as a new parent. From the moment you start sharing your pregnancy you are bombarded with “ be careful you’re pregnant “ I realized my anxiety started as early as my first few weeks of pregnancy, every week that baby stayed in it’s safe place was a huge celebration for me. As a new mom with a tiny newborn, there was much unsolicited advice, about what to do and what not to do, what could potentially be dangerous, what was to be expected...advice was everywhere. All I could hear was - Don’t fuck it up. I tried to tune every one out, truly. Brushing it off or just saying yeah. But my mind was going crazy with anxiety. I was a new mom and new moms just worry all the time...I thought. In fact my worries were not normal and perhaps to be considered extreme. If you know a new mama- offer her support, not advice. You don’t know the difference it could make.
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I have a book that came out of a magazine years ago it’s called little bits of wisdom learned along the way and its quotes from celebrities about things they have learned along the way that might help others ..one such quote was from Tom Hank’s saying he works so hard so he can afford to pay for the therapists his children will no doubt need as a result of all the mistakes he makes being a dad ... his observation was not made as an excuse more as a human accepting himself as perfectly imperfect.
When it comes to our wellbeing however it turns out that the ‘keep calm and carry on’ mantra that so many of us have been ‘sold’ is massively flawed as is the ‘put others before ourselves one.
In our kitchen we have a sign it says the family rules ... it’s a good one bar the ‘put others before yourself one’ ... I am very clear about that one we must be sometimes self fish in order to be self less but we must equally be sufficiently in alignment with ourselves we take nothing others do or say personally, we remain kind but take no shit.
Our mind is clever but our ego can run story’s that are not ours to own ..learning to align with a belief system that reflects who we are today not only sets us free from the past but equally ensures we raise future generations that are stronger than the one before ... if you can’t do it for yourself do it for them because epigenetics and neuroplaticity are showing us nothing is set in stone until we decide it is and true wellbeing is not the absence of dis-ease but the mind,body, spirit connection and in a world that profits from our fears that’s priceless ... and it all begins with our nervous system.