Have you ever lost control of your life? Believed you were going down an oblivion? Considered yourself a lost cause? Thought that nothing will be turning for the better?
If yes, I for one, can understand it better than anyone. The anxiety and utter hopelesness surrounding my life for the year and so has forced me down a path unknown so many times. I have been so open about my views and life here. This’s why, when I say, I know what it means to feel there’s nothing special coming your way ever, you might understand. I am not saying this to hog sympathy but to tell everyone I understand it.
I understand when you overwork so you don’t have to focus on what haunts your mind. I understand when you can’t sleep at night because the uncertainty won’t let you. I understand when you think you’re dying, you can’t breathe but that’s only your anxiety speaking. I understand when everything around you is as normal as it could be, but your brain still isn’t at peace. More than that, I understand you don’t want your life to unfold like this. Above all, I know you won’t allow your life to!
Such is the reality of life. At one point or another, through some way or the other, your life will go at its lowest. You will wonder what the reason is. You will find where you went wrong. You will beat yourself as to why you’re unable to solve it all. But, the day you understand YOU aren’t to be blamed, is when you will understand this is what life is.
As unfortunate as it is, life isn’t fair and roses for all! It will go down for a month, year or a decade but that does not mean you are to be blamed for it. It only means you’re one of the selected few who can take life as raw as it comes!
2 weeks ago
All of you know I have never uploaded any promotional content or even a brand-based post before, but the GEAR initiative intrigued me to.
Every time we come across any woman or man who is capable of earning but still begs, we go all judgmental on them. We are quick to think why would they beg when they can work. What we don’t know is how everyone isn’t fortunate enough to get a job easily. When I came across GEAR, I completely loved how they have put forth the best of their energy and resources to help employ the youth. They help people get the job as per their talent, which needs to be brought out.
Thus, this Ramadan, let’s help them raise funds to help as many people as they can. Let’s take a pledge to make this blessful month a blessing for all. Because it is the duty of those privileged to help those who aren’t. Help someone earn, help someone build a home today.
2 weeks ago
Dear You. A letter from me to you!
Sometimes you’ll be lost. The people close to you will feel so far. The noise in your head will be too loud. The criticism around you will be so intense. You’ll be struggling. You’ll be juggling with delusion and reality. You’ll be wondering if there’s a silver lining to the miseries you are going through and if there’s a way to end it all.
You wouldn’t be breaking. You will only be becoming stronger. You will be preparing yourself for the battle we call life. You will be getting ready for the perks life has to offer. I know you know coal has to go through a process to become an invaluable diamond. So, how can you imagine your life not being hard? How can you consider that the struggle you are doing is worthless?
For days when life seems a little too much and the people around you exhaust you, remember that it is a phase. A phase that will define who you were, who you are and who you will be.
You hold the pen to your own story! You write it by yourself. No matter how much people tell you, fate had it. Somewhere deep down your intuition knows that some part of your happiness and misfortunes is entirely in your hands. With that in mind, let every lousy day, phase and month be the decision-maker of how you are going to be. So start and get, set go! I am sure you’ll write every moment of how your life will unfold. Believe me, every hardship will turn into gold!
4 weeks ago
For the longest time in my life I have been made uncomfortable and conscious of my identity. For the most part of my life I have been made to believe that just because I don’t have it easy, I won’t be able to get it.
At my lowest, I was told that since my mom is no more and the rest of my family isn’t in an ideal condition, I shouldn’t talk about them because that would hurt my public image. At my most vulnerable, I was told to just remain at the background because public spotlight brings personal questions and those questions mean answers to a peek in what my personal life is.
I have struggled a lot. I have struggled to achieve what little things I have today. People don’t see the side of me that is working her brains off 16-hours a day. People don’t see how I made myself from a scratch. How I self-learnt every little skill I have today. All people see is how I am not privileged enough to flaunt a status, wealth or family.
For the most part of my life I have allowed these comments and my ACTUAL life to weigh down on me, but not anymore! Starting today, I see a girl who began earning at the age of 17. I see a girl who couldn’t write an application and now she has the power to affect people through her words (at least what I believe). I see a girl who works full-time, freelances, and helps people build themselves without asking any monetary benefit in return. I see a girl whose DM has always been open for everyone who wants to cry their heart out.
With this minute, I free myself from what I have been forced to think all along. At no point I had a man in my life, but I won’t be pushed now to believe that I am nothing without a man at my back. This being said, I am in no way forcing that we don’t need men support or all man are trash, so don’t take it there. I am freeing myself from all the labels this society has put on me. I am freeing myself from the extensive mental torture people have put me in. I allow myself to live with all my ugly realities right now, today, tomorrow and always!
Sometimes there is an eternal sadness inside or sometimes when miseries befall, we lose touch to who we are. Unfortunately, we are part of a society, which tells us it is wrong to slow down. A society that tells us it is wrong to cry your heart out. A society that tells us it isn’t right to be depressed without any reason. If you’re at the other end of this society, this is what you should read today. If you’re at the other end of the society, you need to pat yourself on the back, because you survived another day of not fitting in.
If you are sad, please be sad. If you are mourning the loss of someone, please allow yourself to mourn. If you are hurt, please be hurt fully. You have your own coping mechanism. You have your own way of dealing with the pain. You don’t and shouldn’t have to adhere to the unnecessarily farcical standards of this society.
Pain is always intense. When your mental health deteriorates, the useless reasoning will only put you into more misery. So when you are hurting, allow yourself to get hurt. Allow yourself to be who you are feeling at the moment.
You will always have more chances to fake life, but you seldom get chances to celebrate loss, unhappiness, sorrow or pain!
1 month ago
We are told to step out of our comfort zone, if we wish to succeed. We are always told that if we stick to the things we feel attached to, we won’t be going anywhere. We are reprimanded, if we wish to stick to the routine and don’t want to go out in the wild to explore. We’re called unambitious, lazy, stagnant, boring, mindless, and what not if all we want to do is to follow one direction from the place we love, even if it does not mean heaps of success or money in a long run.
I think you all got my point here. Since we all have been there at some points in our lives, so I think I don’t have to elaborate it further. But what I really have to talk about is, how it is not okay to be okay with the idea of uncomfortable journeys. It is not wise to go out of your comfort zone just because people expect you. It is so not right to follow the age old unproven recipe that those who get out of their comfort zone are the ones who succeed.
Remember that there will always be people to excel the tasks you are not comfortable doing. However, there will only be YOU to bring out a change or make a mark in the area or things you are comfortable doing. When you are easy with the idea of doing something the way you do, your imagination flows. And when creativity knows no bound, some really great things happen.
Don’t let people fool you or make you feel any less than yourself, if the idea of challenging and taking risks is something that doesn’t intrigue you. Don’t let people judge you or don’t judge yourself, if you can’t be the brave, doer version of what society and people expect you to be.
Just be yourself, because you are the only thing that nobody else can be. Love!
Our lives are so stressful, routines so hectic and minds so boggled. In the competition to have a fine degree, better job, more money, we have lost our peace of mind. We have forgotten what late night self-reflection felt like. We have no idea what early morning walk while the sun rises mean to a soul. We don’t have the time to just sit and laugh over the silly childhood jokes.
As much as we all are running for materialistic gains, we all have lost piece of mind too. One day we want a certain car, and we work very hard for it. The next day, we want another and we work even harder. The urge and wish for material gains has left us with extreme mental stress and absolutely zero comfort.
Nothing could be better than having a drive within you, the will to succeed and the passion to achieve. However, nothing weighs more than the happy emptiness of mind. When you have nothing to think about and not a single reason to worry over.
Your body should be your home to your mind. It shouldn’t be wandering here and there. When life gets a bit too much, just leave everything and give yourself some time to relax. Breathe in the fresh air and welcome emptiness with open arms. Life’s a gift, piece or mind if precious. Above all, you are the most important. Give yourself the due importance!
2 months ago
Pain is pain. The sheer nature of it is to break you from within. It leaves you hollow, vulnerable and all alone at times. We all have experienced pain and will continue to do so. Hence, we all understand what being in pain feels like. Then what do we find by comparing our pain to others? What do we find by claiming the intensity of our pain is greater than that to others?
At my most vulnerable, I was talking to someone how much I was my missing my mother that particular day and the reply just boggled me. She, who is really close to me, started sharing her pain of losing someone and flat-off told me that my pain was nothing when compared to hers. This habit of us all is really, really unsettling. When someone opens up about their heartbreaks or whatever sears them from the inside, it is so not okay to get into the comparison game. Although I agree that everyone’s level and intensity of pain is different, yours might be bigger than mine, but for me, mine is already unsettling and killing me from the inside.
Let’s all be there for people when they need us. Let’s bond over heartbreaks, instead of forcing other person to estrange themselves. Life isn’t a war of greater pain or suffering. It is indeed a war, but you need comrades with you to fight it through. And, when one of your companion has suffered an injury, don’t tell them how you suffered one as well and how your pain was greater than that of their’s. If you want to really win this war of a life, join hands for the good together. A little support goes a long way.
2 months ago
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You don’t have to overwork, if you don’t want to. You don’t have to hustle, if you don’t feel like. You don’t have to be up to people’s expectations, if it isn’t something you desire.
Stop forcing the unwanted YOU on YOURSELF. Stop giving in to people’s expectations. Stop imposing society’s demands on yourself. You don’t owe anyone the version of you that doesn’t exist. You don’t have to be someone that people like, if you can’t please yourself. You have to stop hurting yourself for people and society that wouldn’t look after you if you collapse. These people who expect undesirable perfection would be the first one to run away when you seek help for your mental health. They are just vultures, preying on the mirage of perfection that you created. The moment it dissolves, they will run without ever looking back.
Stop. Give yourself a break. Think and analyze. You aren’t someone, you pretend to be. You are just impersonating what people want and believe me that’s something your heart doesn’t wish for you. Believe me, that’s something you wouldn’t want to look back on.
Take an oath. Self-satisfaction and peace matters the most. If you aren’t happy, you aren’t eligible or accountable to keep anyone else happy. Take a deep breath and inhale all the positivity this world has to offer and exhale all that has been imposed on you. I know you are way more than what people force you to be.
2 months ago
You are deserving of all the love, care and attention this world has to give you. You are worthy of every bit of happiness that is stored far away, waiting for you. Living the lives we have, it is very easy for us to often fall into the throes of hopelessness and sadness. Even when we have our loved ones around who want to help us through hard times, we feel extremely miserable and anxious at times.
There are high chances that you already have people around who want to care for you and love you, but if you don’t, this one is specifically for you. Don’t put yourself into an agony that you aren’t worthy of. Don’t squash your peace in the burden of the hard world that you simply don’t deserve. Just like someone who is trapped in a well, keep your eyes fixated on that one ray of light illuminating the extremely dark. For, it is what keeps your longing alive for freer future.
Every time doesn’t remain the same, not for you and not for anyone else. Keep this wrapped around with lots of self-love and hope in mind that you are worthy and deserving of each & everything your mind tells you otherwise.
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